Today is a gift. It is my day off from my job (which I love already). And since my job (which I already love) is new ~ like, really new, like I started four days ago ~ the timing is great because my brain needed a rest from all the new, NEW, NEW that has …
Just How Did You Get Her There From Here? So she ended up in Wonderful Place Number One (as far as these places can be wonderful). But she was still super far away. We knew that it would be best if we could get her closer to us, she would benefit from our more frequent …
When A Tree Lands On Your House So, after consulting wise people whose profession requires them to know this stuff, we decided to follow the guidance of deception as kindness. Whatever we did, we were not going to tell her the truth. It’s like being told not to think about a pink elephant. Seriously: DO …
Click here for previous post in this series. Deception as the Kindest Thing As we move closer to The Time (when my mother can no longer live in her own home), it becomes clearer that honesty must cede its high throne as the measure of integrity and right relations. Instead, endorsing the truth of the …
Heroic Efforts: When Loving a Dog is Not Enough We thought that we were going to move her last summer. But then there was a court hearing. Much to our surprise, when she was served with notice that she could object to her son’s nefarious plans to move her out of her home, our mother, …
When Loving a Dog is Not Enough We thought that we were going to move her last summer. But then there was a court hearing. Much to our surprise, when she was served with notice that she could object to her son’s nefarious plans to move her out of her home, our mother, did, in …
The Proper Distance from a Slow Motion Train Wreck Today I learned that not only must my mother be formally served legal notice by some professional notice-server – the content of which is that she will be moved, against her will, from her beloved, familiar house that is no longer safe for her and will …
To Clean or Not to Clean? The woman offering my mother Meals on Wheels turns out to have learned trombone from my father, who gave her a scholarship to attend music camp. The administrative assistant at the law firm we are engaging to seek conservatorship over my mother lives at the top of her street, …
Keeping Guilt Company During this visit much has happened. And nothing has happened. During this visit I I vacuumed her living room floor. Or part of the floor. The visible part. I cleared out a bathroom that hasn’t been used in two decades. In it is a working walk-in shower where she could more safely …
On Hideous Toe Nails and Moments of Intimacy 3 Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going to God, 4 got up from the table, took off his outer robe, and tied a towel around himself. 5 Then he poured water into a …